Abuse is not normal and never ok.

If you are in a relationship with someone, you should feel loved, safe, respected and free to be yourself. There are different forms of abuse, but if your relationship leaves you feeling scared, intimidated or controlled, it’s possible you’re in an abusive relationship.

If you have been abused, or fear you have, it can be hard to take the first step in seeking help – especially if you have tried to talk about the issue to friends, family or professionals and have not had a response that helped you.

Abuse in a relationship can destroy your self-confidence, have a negative impact on your health and wellbeing, and leave you feeling isolated and lonely.

Signs of abuse

A partner may:

  • try to pressure you into having sex by saying “if you loved me you would”
  • call you names or threaten to spread rumours about you
  • try to control you by checking your phone
  • try to force you to do things by hitting you
  • get angry when you want to spend time with your friends

There are many organisations. Your local telephone directory, Citizens Advice Bureau or the NHS services finder may have more information on local organisations.


Support for all adults

Chris, PO Box 90 90
Stirling FK8 2SA
116 123 (Freephone)

Victim Support
Victim Supportline: 08 08 16 89 111

Victim Support is a charity that provides support and information to people affected by crime, including rape and sexual abuse, as a victim or a witness. The website provides details of local support branches.

Support for adults abused in childhood

NAPAC (National Association for People Abused in Childhood)
infoline: 08 08 801 0331

Support, advice and guidance for adult survivors of any form of childhood abuse – sexual, physical or emotional

Support for children

helpline: 0800 1111 (24 hours)

Confidential telephone counselling service for children about any issue.

helpline: 0808 800 5000 (24 hours daily)

For anyone who needs advice, help or information regarding a child’s welfare and for those who want to report concerns they have about a child or young person at risk of abuse.

Parents information service: 0808 802 5544

Information for both parents and young people, including podcasts on the website and useful publications.

Support for older people

Action on Elder Abuse
helpline (UK): 0808 808 8141

Helpline for anyone concerned in any way about the abuse of older people.

Support for people with learning difficulties


Respond provides a range of services to people with learning disabilities, including both victims and perpetrators of sexual abuse. It also provides support and training for families, carers and professionals. Mental health professionals can refer people with learning difficulties who have experienced or perpetrated sexual abuse for face to face work.

infoline: 0808 808 1111

Information and advice for people with a learning disability, families and carers


Coronavirus update

In light of the current situation, we are making changes to the way we deliver services at the moment. However, please note that all our Psychological Wellbeing services are still open and accepting referrals. For your appointment, you will be offered the choice of video, telephone or face-to-face. There is no need to call us to confirm – your regular point of contact will call you at the time your appointment was scheduled.

A number of face to face drop-in groups are now running again with more expected to follow. Further information on the groups available can be viewed at: www.selfhelpservices.org.uk/onlinegroups

We have also created an online Peer Support group on Facebook, which can be accessed at: www.facebook.com/groups/selfhelppeersupport.

If you’re worried, think you may have symptoms of Coronavirus or want further information, see the latest advice from Public Health England.

Finally, if you’re struggling through self-isolation, please don’t feel alone. There are local community groups being created all over the country, which you can find here. Alternatively, you can call our community centres in your local area, which you can find here.

Contact us

In response to the national lockdown, we have arranged for Royal Mail to hold our post until further notice. Therefore, we encourage you to contact us via email and refer yourself online where possible.

If you have sent post to us, please contact the relevant service to check if we have received it and they will be able to help you further:

Manchester – Any queries about your referral or bookings please email us on: pws.manchester@selfhelpservices.org.uk or if you wish to make a referral please go to our website at: www.selfhelpservices.org.uk/Manchester

Stockport – Any queries about your referral or bookings please email us on: stockportpws@selfhelpservices.org.uk or if you wish to make a referral please go to our website at: www.selfhelpservices.org.uk/Stockport

Cheshire – Any queries about your referral or bookings please email us on: talking.therapies.ec@thebiglifegroup.com or if you wish to make a referral please go to our website at: https://www.mytalkingtherapies.com/

Rochdale, Heywood and Middleton – Any queries about your referral or bookings please email us on: thinkingahead@thebiglifegroup.com or if you wish to make a referral please go to our website at: https://www.thebiglifegroup.com/thinkingahead

Tameside and Glossop – Any queries about your referral or bookings please call us on 0161 343 5748 or visit out website to find out more: https://www.thebiglifegroup.com/mindsmatter/

Trafford – Any queries about your referral or bookings please email us on: etherapy.admin@selfhelpservices.org.uk or if you wish to make a referral please go to our website at: https://www.thebiglifegroup.com/service/traffordselfhelp/